Kirk Franklin and wife Tammy have been married for more than 20 years and have been open about their share of ups and downs. That includes Kirk’s past addiction to pornography, which they talked about on The Oprah Winfrey Show in 2005. But that hasn’t stopped the couple from going strong.
Tammy revealed that one of the ways they keep the fire going is by doing the things they did when they were just dating. That includes making time for date night, and in Tammy’s case, pulling out the wedges and paying attention to the things Kirk loves. As she put it, she likes to be her husband’s girlfriend:
As her caption read, “I love being his wife but I’m also very intentional about staying his girlfriend! I knew he wouldn’t mind me wearing the flat sandals that I thought about wearing, but I chose to wear the wedges that I know he loves. I pay attention to what makes him smile😉! I share this not because I’ve always done it perfect but I grew to learn the balance. Although sometimes he gets my bonnet lol, he should also get his Boo!”
But what keeps their marriage working is more than just some wedge heels and nights out on the town. Tammy, while speaking in an interview with Kirk on Get Up! Mornings With Erica Campbell in February, said they’ve been able to get to this point by communicating, acknowledging when they hit bumps in the road and not being afraid or ashamed to take part in counseling. It’s all been integral in a marriage that started in 1996.
“We got married at 25 and we’re different people now. Kirk and I have never wanted to be those people who sit at a table and not be talking,” Tammy said. “There was one particular time, I don’t know what year it was in our marriage, when we looked up and we were those people. I remember us looking at each other and it broke our heart. And I was like, ‘I don’t like this.’ So it begins too just with a conversation of, ‘I don’t like where we are and can we start again?’ And that’s what we did. ”
She added, “I think that as a culture we kind of shy away from counseling and therapy, but it’s important. It says that you love each other enough, love yourself enough to get the help that you need. And so we’ve done counseling; it has saved our marriage. We pray together and I’m not only his wife, but I’m his girlfriend.”